A Burden of a Girl

I hope this post will inspire you who feel the same experience

I know I don't have permission to tell this story yet, from her. So I don't tell who are the girl in this post neither her name. But I just want to write what my perception.

Someone close to me ask something, how can she face her burden. What is her burden? She said that her ex-boyfriend still carries half of her heart. I asked why she can't forget that, she answered that good and bad memories with him can't easily be forgotten. She also said that many people have told her to forget her ex-boyfriend, but she can't.

Okay, based on my analysis, I can give some solutions, here :

1. I have told her too manipulate her perception. I mean something like running from the problem by thinking another good think. But she said that everytime her ex-boyfriend call her, she recall what they used to do when they were still as a couple. The worse thing is her ex-boyfriend called her just when he had a bad experience to share with her.
2. Finding someone that can replace him. Maybe this solutions has been told to her many times. But as I can think from his story line, she has tried to do that. She told me that she was with another boyfriend about 2 months ago. But after just a few time they broke because of something I can't tell. After that she has a trauma to find any boyfriend.
3. Finding someone that make her enjoy. This solution is quite different with the 2nd's. I mean she don't have to directly find someone who can replace him, just find someone that can make her smile and laugh without any burden. I think this will make the 2nd's happens too.
4. Brainwashing?! (just kidding...)
   

After that, I think the real problem is point 2, she has a trauma. Of course because of that she doesn't have any boyfriend now. That means that every her free time, her memory automatically recall her bad experience, whether she wanted or not. And without a boyfriend, her ex-boyfriend feel free to call her anytime. Of course the point 1 won't work too. Maybe she should try the 3rd solution, haha... just kidding.

I know that is her choice. She wants to be alone for sometime. I agree. I will suggest her to try to find friends as many as she can, and fill her free time with any activities that make her to forget her bad experience step by step. Last thing, I hope she will be happy with us, right fussy girl?! haha... don't angry...